We just love our Lucky Honey mamas! The pictures we get tagged in clearly show some gorgeous women who love their own little honeys very very much. One such woman we adore is Amber of Coco Moon, who was previously featured on our blog. We asked Amber, a bonafide expert on mamas and kiddos, to create some Top Fives related to all things mama and all things baby. And as we wrap up this Holiday shopping season, some of these tips couldn’t come at a better time.
It's clear that beyond making really amazing products, she has a really profound perspective and we are really grateful she took the time to write these for our customers.
So without further ado, Amber's Top Fives.
TOP 5 FAVORITE BEDTIME STORIES
One Fish, Two Fish by Dr. Seuss
What the dinosaurs did last night by Refe and Susan Tuma
Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site by Sherri Duskey Rinker and Tom Lichtenheld
Guess How Much I Love You, by Sam McBratney
Go the F*ck to Sleep by Adam Mansback (just kidding)!
TOP 5 UNIQUE GIFTS FOR NEW MOMS
I’m super sentimental, so while I often gift mama-to-be baby essentials like our Newborn Gown and Hat Set or a super soft swaddle, I also love to gift personal experiences and keepsakes to help them remember this special time in their life. Here are a few of my favorites that I’ll gift along with our products:
Motherhood related jewelry. There are so many cool examples that would fall into this category - necklaces that say “Mama” or a child’s name, a vintage locket, or a pendant with the child’s birthstone are a few that come to mind. These are pieces that a mama will cherish forever and will always bring up fond memories of her shower (and the gift giver) ;)
Gift certificate for newborn portraits. One of my biggest regrets as a mom is not getting newborn portraits taken of either of my boys. What was I thinking? Those newborn days are so fleeting, but as a new mom, it can seem overwhelming to do the legwork to find a photographer, get her pricing, set up an appointment, etc. If you can do some of that work for the mama, and give her professional photographs of her new baby, well then you’ve got a unique and winning gift.
Keepsake box to keep her pregnancy and birth related mementos. There are so many items that you accumulate during this time of your life – ultrasound photos, hospital bracelets, baby footprints, even baby’s umbilical cord. Gifting mama a beautiful way to preserve those memories is a thoughtful and wonderful gift.
Baby handprint or footprint kit. These are cute little DIY art projects that make for great nursery décor. That tiny hand or footprint is something many parents will hold on to their whole lives.
This last one is just plain fun: gift the mama’s favorite bottle of wine and some soft stinky cheese. You know, the best indulgences that you just aren’t allowed to have when you’re preggo. This gift is all about the mama-to-be and is usually one of her favorite gifts of the whole shower.
TOP 5 TIPS FOR NEW/EXPECTING MOTHERS:
Let your intuition guide you – don’t get bogged down in books or advice from others. I read a lot of books prior to my first son and was convinced there was only one “right” way to do things. I drove myself crazy when my plan and schedule wasn’t working. Once I let it go, I started to enjoy the process and learned how to make things work in my own way.
I have a friend who is originally from India, and I had told her at one point about all of the books I had read prior to becoming a mom. She looked at me like I was a crazy person – “You learned about it in books??” she asked with a gasp. “In India, children literally grow up in hands,” she said, baffled that parenting could be done in any other way. The saying “it takes a village,” is apparently very literal in other parts of the world.
That being said, find your village and be willing to ask for, and accept, support when you need it. It’s ok to ask for help. I think our culture has a way of making you feel like you need to do everything and figure everything out on your own. That somehow, you’re weaker if you need support. Well I say that’s ridiculous. You’re stronger for it. You’re trying to be the best mom that you can be. If getting help from friends and family will help you do that, then more power to you! The more people giving your baby and YOU lots of love, the better.
Breastfeeding doesn’t always come easy. At first, it hurts. No one warned me about this, so I’m putting it out there for you. But don’t worry, it’s temporary.
I wasn’t mentally prepared for the challenges of breastfeeding, so when it was painful and wasn’t clicking, I felt like it was my fault. But you’ll get through it! You and your baby are both learning something totally new. Yes, it’s natural, but for many, it doesn’t come naturally. And that’s ok! Get yourself some supplies to soothe your “girls” and reach out to a friend, a sister, or a breastfeeding consultant to see how they can help.
Don’t underestimate the power of the swaddle. I know, I know, I’m totally biased on this one. But, I genuinely believe that it is a lifesaver. I’ll never forget the day I learned to swaddle. My son was a few weeks old and had been fussy all day. I felt like there was nothing I could do to settle him. Then in walks my sister-in-law, who is a mother to two girls. After noticing how fussy my son was, she grabbed a blanket, swaddled him up tight, and laid him in his bassinet. I swear he fell asleep in less than a minute. My sister-in-law was quite proud of herself, haha, and I was in awe of her skills. She taught me step-by-step how to swaddle and I was a believer from then on. My babies always slept so much better when they were swaddled, which meant that I finally got some much-needed sleep as well. Because of this experience, I include step-by-step instructions on the inside of our swaddle blanket packaging. So if you don’t have a swaddling master for a sister-in-law, don’t fret, Coco Moon’s got your back. ;)
Have fun with it all. Learn to laugh at the messy curveballs motherhood throws your way – when your baby spits up on you right before you walk out the door for a long overdue date night, when baby has a blow out and you forgot to pack a change of clothes, when you’re so sleep deprived you leave the sink running and it floods the whole kitchen, when your milk leaks in the middle of yoga and the only logical thing to do is get your whole shirt wet…the list goes on. One day, it will all be funny. And that day will come before you know it. A piece of advice I was given before becoming a mother was that the days are long, but the years are short. I don’t know if a saying has ever rung truer. My eldest is already five and it truly has gone by in the blink of an eye.
Thank you Amber, keep up the inspiring work! We so look forward to what you have in store for us.
Photography: Schyne Photography